Confident, Capable, and Ready: Supporting Potty Training Success at Heights Cooperative Preschool7/22/2025 by Taryn KaplanTaryn is the Director of Heights Cooperative Preschool, as well as the Early Learners and Pre-K lead teacher. They are also a proud TT of 6 nephews and 2 nieces, ranging from ages 3-8 and a former au pair and teacher to many now-successfully potty-trained humans. With years of experience in both a school and home setting guiding small children (and their grown-ups) through life’s big milestones, like the all-important art of wiping. Taryn approaches this messy, yet empowering stage with equal parts humor, patience, and practical advice. As we prepare to welcome a new group of children this fall, we know many families are actively helping their children reach one of the most important milestones of early childhood: potty training. At Heights Cooperative Preschool, we believe that building independence in toileting is not only a practical skill but also an important step in helping children feel confident, capable, and ready for preschool success.
Potty training can feel overwhelming at times, but it is a process that becomes much more manageable with support, consistency, and clear expectations. This blog post is designed to offer encouragement and practical resources to help your child master toileting independence and start the school year feeling proud of their abilities. Our School’s Potty Training Expectations At Heights Cooperative Preschool, all children must be fully potty trained prior to starting school. This means your child should be able to:
To help children succeed, our classes take frequent bathroom breaks throughout the day and children may also request to use the bathroom at any time. These scheduled opportunities help children build routine and stay attuned to their bodily cues. However, even with these breaks, children must be able to manage their own toileting needs during these times. Helping Children Master Wiping: Practical Tools and Playful Strategies We understand that wiping can often be the most challenging part of potty independence. It requires coordination, flexibility, and body awareness. Skills that young children need time and practice to develop. Here are two playful, effective techniques to help build confidence and competence. 1. The Sticker Trick (Over Pants Practice) This activity helps children learn the motion and reach required for effective wiping.
2. The Balloon and Wet Wipe Trick This hands-on activity offers immediate feedback on technique and thoroughness.
Occupational therapists and early childhood experts recommend activities like this because they support coordination, reach, and awareness through hands-on, playful learning. Using the Right Words: Building Confidence, Safety, and Clear Communication At Heights Cooperative Preschool, we encourage families to help their children build confidence and body autonomy by using correct biological terms for body parts; words like penis, vulva, and anus (butt or bottom). These words help children communicate clearly and confidently about their bodies with trusted adults, including teachers and healthcare providers. Using the proper terms for your child's anatomy supports body awareness, healthy boundaries, and clear communication. It helps reduce confusion and ensures teachers and caregivers understand your child when they talk about their body. While some families may use nicknames at home, it’s important to know that your child’s teacher may not recognize or understand those nicknames. At school, the words we use consistently across all classrooms are:
We are intentional in distinguishing between vulva and vagina to help children understand their bodies with accuracy: the vulva refers to external anatomy, while the vagina refers to internal anatomy. This clarity becomes especially important when children are learning how to wipe properly or when they need to communicate with a teacher about discomfort, pain, or bodily functions. When children have the language to describe what they are feeling; for example, "My butt feels sore after I go potty” or “My vulva hurts when I wipe", teachers are better able to understand their needs and respond appropriately. Having clear, accurate words empowers children to communicate confidently about their bodies and helps ensure they receive the care and support they need without confusion. Additionally, research shows that children who are taught the correct anatomical terms for their bodies are better equipped to clearly report if something inappropriate happens to them. Accurate language supports children’s safety, strengthens their ability to communicate clearly, and provides a foundation for healthy boundaries and body autonomy. Helpful Resources for Families Here are some resources to guide and support you through this important milestone:
You Are Not Alone, We’re Here to Support You Every child approaches potty training on their own timeline. Some master it quickly, while others need more time, practice, and encouragement. Both paths are completely normal. At Heights Cooperative Preschool, we are committed to helping families build confidence, independence, and healthy routines. We also want families to know that we recognize accidents can still happen even for children who are fully potty trained. This is why we require all children to have a full change of clothes that stays in their cubby at school at all times. Having these extra clothes on hand helps ensure that your child can comfortably and confidently get back to their day without added stress or embarrassment. If your child ever needs assistance with changing clothes due to an accident, they will be helped by Mx. Taryn or Ms. Margie. We approach these situations with kindness, patience, and respect for each child’s dignity and comfort. We also understand that every family’s potty training journey looks different. Medical exceptions or accommodations may be made on a case-by-case basis in partnership with families and healthcare providers. If you anticipate your child needing support beyond our general policy, we invite you to reach out so we can collaborate on a plan that sets them up for success. At Heights Cooperative Preschool, we see toileting independence as a big step on your child’s journey toward confidence and belonging in our school community. I’m always happy to chat with families about strategies, resources, or simply to remind you that you’re doing a great job. If you have questions, need guidance, or would like to talk through strategies, please reach out. We are happy to support you through this important milestone and help ensure your child starts the school year feeling proud, capable, and ready for success. Here’s to all the big (and small) milestones ahead!
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Graduation always arrives with a bittersweet mix of emotions: pride, joy, nostalgia, and hope. This year was no different. As I looked out at our graduates and their families, I found myself overwhelmed by just how much love, learning, and care has been shared within our school walls. Several families have reached out since graduation, asking for a copy of the speech I gave. It’s my honor to share it with all of you here, not just as words spoken on a single day, but as a reflection of what we’ve built together this year, and a reminder of what truly matters in early childhood education. Below you’ll find my graduation remarks in full, along with some snapshots from our special day. I hope these words and images serve as a keepsake; a way to hold onto this moment and the incredible growth we’ve witnessed. Graduation Speech, 2025 (As delivered on Graduation Day) Good afternoon, families, friends, and most importantly, graduates. Welcome. I’m so glad we are here together. As we gather here today, I want to take a moment to breathe this in; to feel the joy, the bittersweetness, and the pride that fills this space. Look around. This is a space full of love, growth, and possibility. Today we’re celebrating more than the end of a school year. We’re celebrating growth. The kind that happens in block corners, in brave playground moments, and in every deep breath before trying again. At Heights Cooperative Preschool, we believe learning isn’t just about letters or numbers. It’s about relationships. About noticing. About care. What we’ve done together this year goes beyond kindergarten readiness. We’ve helped shape who these children are becoming in the world. This year, our world has continued to feel unpredictable. The world around us can often feel heavy and uncertain. And yet inside these classroom walls, something beautiful was built. A space where children are taught that every voice matters. That bodies are different and beautiful. That families come in all shapes and constellations. That feelings are okay to have, and mistakes are okay to make. We’ve built classrooms where it’s normal to ask someone’s pronouns, where imagination is celebrated, and where neurodiversity is supported with tools, not shame. A place where every voice matters, and where kindness, creativity, and authenticity guide our days. These are not small things. These are radical things. They’ve learned how to care for living creatures. How to make group decisions with fairness. How to speak up when something doesn’t feel right and how to care for the Earth that holds us all. They’ve practiced patience, taken turns, and stepped forward with confidence when it was their time to lead. And now, I want to take a moment to celebrate each of our graduates, not just for what they’ve learned, but for who they are and the unique light they bring to the world. Eliza, whose joy is so big it often shakes through her body and radiates from her. She taught us how to laugh loudly, love deeply, and lead with empathy. Her nurturing spirit and playful heart brought so much light into our classroom. Grace, whose confidence and creativity blossomed this year, brought vibrant imagination into every project. Her bond with Cooper grew into something extraordinary, transforming her from a child who was comfort-seeking to one of Cooper’s most caring and dedicated trainers. Jason grew in confidence and voice. He reminded us of the power of persistence, imagination, and joyful expression. His love for music and storytelling brought rhythm and life to our days. He learned how to be a good friend to others and advocate for himself with kindness. Laurence, equal parts silliness and sensitivity, kept us smiling and grounded. His clever humor, kind heart, and playful creativity brought energy and warmth to every corner of our classroom and especially to the close friendships that he made. Logan, who I have had the pleasure of having with me for two years, touched us all with his emotional insight, deep curiosity about animals, and beautiful singing voice. He has shown us how powerful joyful energy and heartfelt awareness can be. His love for Cooper is something truly special. Their bond is one of trust, comfort, and deep friendship. He is a thoughtful friend, a gentle leader, and a child who consistently teaches us the value of compassion and wonder. Ruthie, with her big imagination and strong sense of fairness, reminded us how to lead with both creativity and heart. She dreams up entire worlds in her play and stands confidently for what she believes is right, never afraid to ask questions or speak up. Tuve, who speaks through her stunning and soulful art, taught us about courage, creativity, and the deep connections that transcend words. Her work always came from the heart and amazed us with its beauty and intention. Vivian, whose steady leadership and quiet wisdom helped anchor our classroom, reminded us how powerful it is to lead by example. Her kindness and confidence uplifted others, and she showed us what thoughtful leadership truly looks like. And our Danger twins, Atticus and Lincoln, who each brought something uniquely their own, reminded us to be present, notice the small things, and celebrate every step of communication and expression. Atticus brought energy, adventure, and joyful inclusion. Lincoln brought quiet observation, kindness, and artistic brilliance. Together and individually, they showed us the beauty of growth and connection. To our graduates: You are brave. You are kind. You are the proof that when we pause and truly listen to children, we build something better. You have taught us just as much as we’ve taught you. You’ve shown us how many ways there are to speak, to learn, and to lead. To our families: Thank you for being co-creators in this journey. Your presence, participation, and trust have helped shape this community into something truly special. Thank you for reading stories as surprise guests, for helping us bring our classroom themes to life with costumes, materials, and your time. For volunteering behind the scenes, supporting school events, cleaning paint-splattered tables, and showing up even on the hard days. You’ve modeled what it means to be present, engaged, and all-in. You’ve shown our children what community really looks like. And to my colleagues, the educators who bring this vision to life every day. Your work is tender. And powerful. You are shaping the future one interaction at a time. A special thank you to Ms. Sophia, our full-time classroom aide, whose love, nurturing, humor, and artistic gifts have added so much to our days. She has a remarkable gift for seeing each child for who they truly are, and her thoughtful care has helped our classroom grow into a more joyful and nurturing space. Thank you also to Ms. Sam and Ms. Margie, who helped prepare many of our graduates in their earlier classrooms and who continue to support them each day with unwavering care and connection. Thank you for the love, the patience, the teamwork, and the integrity you bring into this space. And to Cooper, Glitter, Mango, and Kiwi. Thank you for showing us how to care for others with gentleness, how to notice the small wonders of the world, and how to stay grounded in the moment. Our classroom is more alive, more regulated, and more joyful because of you. Let us remember that what we do in early childhood is not preparation for "real life." It is real life. And it ripples outward. May the lessons we’ve lived here ripple with you, wherever you go. Let’s keep building a world where children are safe to be curious, where adults are humble enough to keep learning, and where love not fear is what guides us. Congratulations, Heights graduates. You are ready. And we are so, so proud of you. A Look Back at Graduation Day Below are portraits of each of our graduates on their special day, along with our final class photo together. These faces represent not just a milestone, but the future; bright, brave, and full of possibility. Thank you for being part of this extraordinary year. |
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