Separation anxiety is a common phase in a child’s development, often presenting itself during milestones like starting preschool or daycare. As a parent, witnessing your child struggle with separation can be emotionally challenging. However, there are several strategies you can employ to make this transition smoother for both you and your child. Here are some practical tips to help navigate through separation anxiety:
1. Gradual Transitions Ease your child into the idea of separation by introducing short periods of time away. Start with brief intervals and gradually extend them as your child becomes more comfortable. This helps build their confidence and trust that you will return. 2. Establish Consistent Routines Children thrive on routines and predictability. Create a consistent drop-off routine with specific rituals, such as a special goodbye hug or a comforting phrase. This establishes a sense of security and makes transitions more manageable. 3. Familiarity Breeds Comfort Introduce your child to their new environment or caregiver gradually. Spend time together in the new setting, allowing them to explore and become familiar with the surroundings. Familiarity can significantly reduce anxiety. 4. Open Communication Talk to your child about the upcoming separation in a positive and reassuring manner. Explain where you will be, when you’ll return, and emphasize that separations are a normal part of life. Encourage them to share their feelings with you. 5. Choose a Transitional Object Select a small, comforting item—like a favorite toy or a family photo—that your child can bring along during separations. This transitional object serves as a source of comfort, offering a tangible connection to home. 6. Build a Relationship with Caregivers Foster a positive relationship between your child and their caregivers. Encourage communication between you, the caregivers, and your child to create a supportive network. Knowing that you trust the caregivers can alleviate anxiety. 7. Stay Calm and Consistent Maintain a calm demeanor during drop-offs and pick-ups. Children often mirror their parents’ emotions, so projecting confidence and assurance can help reassure them. Consistency in your reactions builds trust over time. 8. Celebrate Small Achievements Acknowledge and celebrate your child’s successes, no matter how small. Reinforce the positive aspects of separation experiences, emphasizing the enjoyable activities or new friends they encountered during your absence. 9. Be Patient Separation anxiety is a natural phase that varies in duration for each child. Be patient and understanding, providing the emotional support your child needs as they navigate this developmental milestone. 10. Seek Professional Guidance if Needed If separation anxiety persists and significantly impacts your child’s well-being, consider seeking guidance from a pediatrician or child development expert. Professional advice can offer tailored strategies to address your child’s unique needs. Conclusion: Nurturing Independence with Love While separation anxiety can be challenging, it is a normal part of a child’s growth. By approaching it with patience, understanding, and these practical tips, you can help your child build confidence and develop a sense of independence. Remember, every child is unique, and finding what works best for your family may take time. Through consistent support and love, you can guide your child through this phase, fostering their independence and resilience along the way.
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Near the end of the school year, our Pre-K classroom became the foster home for Cooper, a therapy dog in training. We made it official and Heights Cooperative Preschool has adopted Cooper, and she will have a very important job on our team when school starts in September. Cooper came to us from the Cuyahoga County Animal Shelter, where she was taken after being found abandoned in a park with her siblings. Unfortunately, none of her brothers and sisters survived, and Cooper was in need of a lot of cuddles, love, and compassion. Our PreK students were more than happy to deliver an extra large dose of puppy love!
Similar to a service dog, Cooper is working in our school. But she’s also here to be our friend! While a service dog is trained to support an individual person, Cooper is here to help all of us feel better at school. Cooper is still in the process of her therapy dog certification program, and two of our students have volunteered to train with her so that they know her commands and have a strong bond. They are our Cooper Captains and will help the other students learn how to best interact with Cooper. We’ll be keeping things safe and clean in the classroom – Cooper gets regular breaks to potty outside and we wipe her paws so that she does not bring dirt inside. We also practice hand-washing if Cooper happens to give kisses while she’s still in training. Benefits of Therapy Dogs in the Classroom Therapy dogs provide support for students’ growing social and emotional skills. She has already been helping our students feel more confident, motivated, and relaxed! In addition to social and emotional benefits, therapy dogs have been shown to have a positive impact on attendance rates. Research indicates that students who have regular interactions with therapy dogs are more likely to attend school regularly. This could be attributed to the fact that these furry friends provide a sense of comfort and security, making students feel safe and motivated to come to school. Therapy dogs can also improve executive functioning skills. Tasks like planning, organizing, and prioritizing may become easier as students engage with these animals. The presence of therapy dogs has been found to enhance cognitive abilities and increase attention span in students of all ages from elementary school to college! Additionally, reading skills can greatly benefit from the presence of therapy dogs. Many schools have implemented programs where students read aloud to these non-judgmental and attentive companions. This practice not only helps build confidence in struggling readers but also creates a positive association with reading. Lastly, problem-solving skills tend to improve when students interact with therapy dogs. These animals offer unconditional love and support, providing a safe space for students to work through challenges they may be facing, like big changes at home or moving up to a new grade in school. Beth EdmistonBeth Edmiston, PhD, RN, CCRN is a Heights mom and our health advocate! Look for more blogs from Beth about keeping our kids healthy at school and home. Hello Heights Coop! My name is Beth Edmiston, or to the kids in Mx. Taryn’s room, Miles’s mom. This is our third year at Heights Coop, and we have been packing lunches and snacks since even before that. Besides being a mom, I am also a nurse, and spent many years as a cardiac nurse. Part of my job was educating patients on heart healthy nutrition. Since starting to pack my own children’s lunches and being the person responsible for figuring out how to support my kids’ balanced diet, I found my knowledge and creativity in this area were really lacking. Over the years, I have done a lot of digging through medical resources, magazines, cookbooks, and so on, to learn about child nutrition, what to do about picky eaters, and ideas for healthy, fun snacks. So how can we balance healthy eating with our busy lives? I have put together some solutions to support our preschoolers in getting comfortable with a wide range of nutritious lunch and snack foods. Let’s Talk about Nutrients Having a variety of nutrients and food options is important for building healthy bodies - and a healthy relationship with food as our kids grow. A balanced diet has a place for all types of food. Remember, all food is fuel for our bodies. Most people are familiar with the major nutrient groups: Carbohydrates, protein, and fats. These are called macronutrients. Other nutrients like vitamins and minerals are called micronutrients. And all of these types of nutrients work together in our bodies to help us learn and play! It’s About Balance Let’s talk about sugar, since there’s a lot of talk about it when it comes to nutrition. As long as meals and snacks are balanced, sweet treats can be a tasty part of your child’s lunch. In fact, sugar is the nutrient that is most readily converted to energy in the body, so having a mix of complex and simple carbs can help keep energy levels sustained throughout the day. Everybody knows that too many sugary things all at once will give us a tummy-ache, but we also know that the lure of the forbidden is real! Remember that feeling when someone tells you "No, you can't do that" and suddenly that exact thing is all you can think about? That feeling is so powerful for children, and as we strive as parents to guide our kids to a healthy relationship with food, avoiding that lure of the forbidden can be very helpful. Assigning moral value judgments to food, such as “good” vs “bad,” “healthy” vs “unhealthy,” etc, can have a lasting impact on a young person’s relationship with food. But encouraging your child to choose different colors, textures, or shapes of food and talking to them about how this gives their bodies all the different macro and micro nutrients they need will support them in building confidence with food and trust in their bodies as they learn what they enjoy from each category. Remember, it’s all about balance! To reduce jittery hyperactivity and the dreaded sugar crash, pack some fats and proteins along with carbohydrates and sweet treats to stabilize their effects on blood sugar. This could look like hummus with carrots and crackers or a Greek yogurt with some chocolate chips to sprinkle on top. The possibilities are endless! How to Encourage Your Kids to Eat Nutritiously Kids can be picky! (Even I’m a picky eater sometimes). New foods can bring unexpected flavors, textures, and smells that take a while to get used to. Research shows that people may need to try a new food at least eleven times before they actually like it! As you’re encouraging your child to eat from many different food groups to get their nutrient bases covered, here are some suggestions to make it more fun for you both. Eat the rainbow! Involve your child in grocery shopping and meal prep so they can see how many colors of fruits, veggies, and other foods are available. Colorful food is so much fun to eat, and you might even find new varieties of tried and true ingredients you haven’t seen before, like purple cauliflower, carrots, and even rice. Bell peppers provide a beautiful array of colors too, and go great with hummus, ranch, or your child’s favorite dip. Turning new foods into a fun and colorful activity can increase your child’s interest in their fruits and veggies. Colorful fruits and veggies also come with their own unique micronutrients based on color called phytonutrients. Red foods help reduce the risk of diabetes and heart disease and help promote skin health! These foods include apples, cherries, tomatoes, watermelon, beets, strawberries, red bell peppers, raspberries, kidney beans, red grapes, pomegranates, and red onions. Orange and yellow foods are rich in vitamin C and beta-carotene, and they help boost the immune system, reduce the risk of heart disease, and support healthy eyes. Orange and yellow foods include: citrus fruits (orange, lemon, grapefruit), mango, papaya, carrots, sweet potatoes, squash, corn, cantaloupe, pineapple, peaches, bananas, and bell peppers. Green foods are rich in so many amazing nutrients that support the immune system and our overall energy levels. Green veggies have folate and vitamin K and they help our blood and brains stay healthy! Try green foods like: broccoli, brussels sprouts, leafy greens (kale, chard, collards, romaine and green leaf lettuce, cabbage, arugula, etc.), asparagus, green beans, peas, zucchini, green apples, kiwis, grapes, and avocado. Purple and blue foods are not only beautiful, they help reduce the risk of cancer and heart disease, decrease inflammation and pain, and support cognition and skin health. Berries especially have incredible healing benefits, helping reduce inflammation and more! Purple and blue foods include: blueberries, blackberries, grapes and raisins, plums and prunes, figs, eggplant, and purple varieties of onions, potatoes, cabbage, and cauliflower. White and brown foods are also important in this rainbow! These phytonutrients can help protect against certain cancers and support bone and heart health. These foods include mushrooms, potatoes, parsnips, daikon radishes, jicama, cauliflower, onions, and garlic. Read more about eating the rainbow at Food Revolution Network - and get some amazing recipe ideas too! Try different preparations. Sometimes your kids (and you!) might love a raw veggie and hate it cooked, or vice versa. Try different preparations of foods to see if you love it a certain way! You can try roasting, steaming, grilling, or pickling instead of eating raw. You could also try using lettuce or other leafy greens as wraps, to make things more interesting.
Pack lunches and snacks together in the evening. Children engaged in decision-making and preparation of meals are more likely to eat their lunch and try new foods. Offer food choices, and talk about how to balance your packed lunch to include carbohydrates, proteins, and fats. I encourage my kids to include a fruit, vegetable, or small dairy product (string cheese) as their snack. The lunch should complement the snack choices and vice versa. If lunch has lots of veggies, make the snack a fruit option. Or include fruit in their lunch and a veggie snack to mix things up. Make the food appealing and get creative. No, I’m not talking about those unrealistic Insta-mom lunches. Use fun ice packs, bento box containers, or add a fun napkin. I use a flower shaped cookie cutter to cut sandwiches into a fun shape! Pack some ranch or Italian dressing as a carrot or broccoli dip, or try hummus. Switch up the cheese snacks (I sometimes buy blocks of cheese and slice them myself, and my kids think it’s gourmet). Do a “homemade lunchable.” Pack leftover pasta in a thermos as a main dish. Make things easy on yourself. Start with one thing and add this to your toolkit. Eventually, as you add different methods, being creative with food choices will be easier. Check the label. I know this can be so tedious, but some items may be hiding ingredients that you want to know about! Double check that any sweet snacks also have protein to help them sustain energy longer and reduce crashes. And also check for any potential allergens if your child or their classmates are sensitive or allergic to ingredients. Help your child eat their lunch, even though you aren’t there! If you know your child struggles with the size of a regular sandwich, cut the sandwich into smaller pieces or use a cookie cutter to make the sandwich more appealing. Peel oranges ahead of time and place in a container for your child to easily eat. Cut fruits and veggies into smaller pieces to ensure your child attempts to eat them. Remember, the children have 20 minutes to eat lunch and you want to set them up for success! Be persistent. Remember, it takes someone at least eleven times of trying a new food to like it. Discontinue foods that your child has a strong negative reaction to, but keep packing interesting new options! With persistence and a little creativity, they will eventually start to try new foods and find new favorites. Finally, remember not to be hard on yourself. Every once in a while, we all only eat frozen French toast sticks or chicken nuggets for dinner. Remember that all food is fuel for our bodies, and don’t beat yourself up! Raising little humans is hard, and you’re doing great. Beth EdmistonBeth Edmiston, PhD, RN, CCRN is a Heights mom and our health advocate! Look for more blogs from Beth about keeping our kids healthy at school and home. The dreaded sick child. We’ve all been there. You wake up, preparing for your day, and then your kid just doesn’t look right. Are they sick? Maybe their temperature is a little elevated or they have a runny nose. They still eat breakfast, and you have a morning meeting that you need to be at… So you have to make the decision on whether or not they should go to school.
As we finish the third full year of a pandemic (not to mention, the ‘tripledemic’ we are currently weathering between COVID-19, RSV, and the flu), this is beyond tiresome and frustrating for us parents. However, “this too, shall pass,” and we need to remember why it is so important to keep sick kids at home. Our beautiful Heights Coop Preschool is a small community. Many of us have younger children and infants who have basically no immunity and are not old enough for vaccines. I see so many grandparents who graciously pick up and drop off students and who likely do some caregiving. A handful of us take care of sick people or care for the elderly. Heights Coop School staff are only a handful of amazing teachers. When one of us is sick, we are all exposed. While most of us can manage our sick selves at home, please keep in mind that the three viruses mentioned above hospitalize and kill thousands of the elderly and young just in an average year. Minimizing illness exposure of vulnerable people is everyone’s responsibility. Signs and Symptoms to Look For Fever (100.4°F) is the most obvious sign of illness; however, there are many other signs and symptoms that warrant a child staying home from school. A low-grade temperature (99-100.3°F) also indicates that your child may be sick or starting to show signs of illness. Vomiting, diarrhea, runny nose, and severe coughing also are all obvious signs. Some less obvious signs and symptoms of common illnesses may include sore throat, difficulty swallowing, lack of energy, or generally not feeling well. Don’t forget, if you child has needed a fever-reducing medication (Tylenol/acetaminophen, Motrin/ibuprofen) within the last 24 hours, keep your child home because they are still contagious! Lastly, if your child is exhibiting symptoms and has known or suspected exposure, please have them tested. Screen-free Activities for Sick Days It is a real struggle to keep a sick child busy! Of course, movies, YouTube, and television shows can be nice, restful options (remember, you have that meeting!), but when you can, engaging your child in activities encourages their development even during an illness. Pick activities with familiarity to promote comfort and security and avoid frustrating tasks. A sick child’s attention span will be shorter than normal, so plan for frequent breaks and (fingers crossed) a long nap. If your child wants to or needs to stay in bed, use a lap desk or cardboard piece to give them a firm surface to work on. Coloring, reading, duplos/blocks, and puzzles are easy, quiet activities to do together. Playdoh, painting, and cutting and pasting are a little messier, but can entertain children for a while. Bubbles are nice for warmer weather and may even help clear out lungs. Of course, enjoy all of the cuddles and hugs you will inevitably receive! |